Are You an "if-er"?

…And I ask that in the kindest sense of the term!

“If only had started 20 years ago…”

“If only I was 20 years younger…”

“If only I had the money to invest…”

“If only I had more time to devote to my dreams…”

The list is long and exhausting!

Honestly, “If only more people would quit worrying about “if only” and get started, there would be a lot more accomplishments and far less excuses.  By the way,

remember that “if only” ALWAYS is followed by an excuse or copout.  Its sad but true.  So many people use “if only” as a way of justifying their lack of success, wealth, health, passion, relationships,…you name it.

Well, the time has come to transform the ‘if only’s” into “despite…”

Example: “Despite the fact that I do not have a lot of free time, I am committing 20% of the time I do have to ….”  As you can see, whether what has been stopping you is real or imaginary, it can be overcome by acting “in spite of it”.  In fact, you will find that there is a great deal of POWER in achieving something despite the real or perceived limitations that we put upon ourselves.

So here is your homework:

Sit down TONIGHT and write a list of things that are stopping you from achieving your dreams.  Then 1 by 1, rewrite them with the new framing that I just shared with you.  In doing so, you will have created your list of commitments that are critical in your future growth as a person.  When you can take what may be perceived as a roadblock, and transform it into a speed bump, you have taken a huge step in controlling your fears of failure and success.

In the Moment,





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