What's Love Got to Do With It?



In life, there is a big difference between love and trust.  Many people get this confused as they feel that the two are synonymous.  Unfortunately, the gap between the 2 is as large as the Grand Canyon.  In fact, the word LOVE has been thrown around and used in so many circumstances that even that has become lost in the translation.  There are many kinds of love.  Love for a family member is much different from the love of a hobby or sport.  Love of a pet is much different than the love of one’s favorite food.  Love has many qualities that describe it:

     “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends…Corinthians

As you can see by this famous Bible quote, love is the purest of feelings.  Marianne Williamson, in “A Course in Miracles” points out that all emotion and the entire list of feelings come from one 2 basic feelings; one is fear and the other is LOVE. The search for love is something that has been depicted in all types of media from personal classified ads to the big screen of epic motion pictures.  It has been portrayed as the ultimate healer and the root of all sorts of actions both good and bad.  It’s mysterious and magical. True love takes its place as the #1 force that defeats all evil.  It is the rarest of treasures, but the heartiest of emotions.  Love can inspire and it can be the cause of great despair.  It is truly one of the greatest things to possess.  To love and to be loved can be seen as the basis of our existence by many.  Some of the world’s most memorable writing is that of The Love Letter



Trust on the other hand is far more precious.  To trust someone is to completely give of yourself to another person.  Trust, much like love can cause an inspiration that will defy your better judgment and logic.When paired with love, it can create a bond and a strength that cannot be questioned or overtaken.  Trust is a foundational component to growing as a person and member of society.

Trust is a fragile thing. Once earned, it affords us tremendous freedom. But once trust is lost, it can be impossible to recover. Of course the truth is, we never know who we can trust. Those we’re closest to can betray us, and total strangers can come to our rescue. In the end, most people decide to trust only themselves. It really is the simplest way to keep from getting burned.Merriam says: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something. As you can see, the major difference between love and trust is that love MAY not required any of the traits of trust in order for love to exist. In other words, as one of my mentors once said, “Love is FREELY Given. I can love anyone and everyone if I choose.  It doesn’t require anything from the other person.  Some people love unconditionally, which by definition is the meaning of true love. However, trust on the other hand is EARNED.In order for to trust someone, they must exhibit certain qualities that warrant trust.  Love can overlook the absence of certain qualities, while trust is easily lost if the prerequisites of that trust are missing or omitted. Therefore, since trust is not so easily given, it becomes the hardest thing to obtain, and the easiest to lose. I say love everyone for they all deserve to be loved, and that love can be the cornerstone for the growth and development of the people you love.  Now as far as trust, I believe that almost everyone is deserving of being trusted at the onset.  This may be a bit naive, but living life looking over your shoulder and wondering who will try to take advantage of you is not living from love.  It is living from fear, and that fear can keep you from experiencing love.For a Complimentary “Heart & Mind Energizer Session” go to http://ur-enough.com




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